The definition of a friend is a person that you have a bond of mutual affection with. This connection is typically exclusive of sexual or family relations. But if you are lucky you have family members that have become friends, that you can share your closest secrets with. Or you may have friends that are closer to you than your blood relatives. Either way you should consider yourself extremely blessed. You have no choice of the family you are born into but you can choose

Do you know anyone who is so religious, so pious, someone holier than thou. Someone that is so critical of others, especially their walk or relationship with Christ. As if they have it all together and their place in heaven is already secured. Well that is what I call being 'too churchy'. So full of church and religion but no real relationship with our Father, or any concern for anyone other than themselves. I believe that we all have room for growth, no matter who we are.

It is better to give than to receive. I believe that this is a quote from the bible but I am more familiar with hearing it in conversations, especially around the holidays. I have always agreed with this statement. But recently, I had an experience that brought this saying to life for me. I have a friend who practices God led giving on a regular basis. This is not something that she brags or boasts about. I actually had no idea that she was doing this until one day her a

I am just returning from a wonderful visit with some of my friends. We have an annual event that we call 'friendsgiving'. Where we take the time to gather, share food, conversation and generally have a good time. We all have our own lives, families, businesses and relationships. And some of us live many miles apart. But we always make time to reconnect. It is so nice to have friends that make a conscious effort to spend time with you. We actually anticipate the times tha

Friends with benefits is typically a term that is used to describe friends that have sex without an emotional involvement. This term encourages casual sex. Relationships that start like this usual end with the couple falling in love or continues until someone gets their heart broken. But to put it plainly this is fornication, it can be adultery or even infidelity. But no matter how you spin it, it is a sin. There is nothing casual about sex. God never intended for us to s

Today I would like to send a very special Happy Birthday shout out to my husband, my friend, my love, my everything Mr. Jay Kirkland Jr (Jay Kutti). You are another year older, another year wiser but you are still the same man that I met and fell in love with over 21 years ago. Wow, time sure flies when you are having fun. I swear it doesn't seem like it has been that long. It is amazing how God does things. How He brings people into your life. How He places you in the p

Six months ago, at our annual marriage retreat, I was given a parting gift of a salt and pepper shaker. The two shakers were tied together. These were given to each couple as a symbol and a very specific reminder about our marriages. This symbol comes from a movie that we all watched together called Fireproof. There is a fire chief in Fireproof that talks about how salt and pepper are very different. Their color, their make up and their tastes are very different but you a

Happy Mother's Day to all mother's everywhere. Especially my mother, Sharone Pace. I am so thankful to God that I still have her in my life, There is something special about a mother's love. She loves you because you are hers, just because you are a part of her. She loves you so much that she would risk her life to protect you. It's a very powerful love that creates a strong bond. We realize this but sometimes we take it for granted. We take it for granted because we t

You ever hear a song and be like, 'it's alright', then you listen to the words and you fall love with it. This has happened to me on more than one occasion. But there is this one song that really caught me off guard. It's a gospel song and I find myself singing my heart out every time I listen to it. It really speaks to my heart and my experience with the Lord. I feel like it expresses my love for Him and all He has done for me. First I want to says that I do not own any

I am going to apologize ahead of time, if this comes across the wrong way. This is a subject that has caused me some hurt as I began my journey. Now I really believe that I am over this, that I've grown from this experience and have begun to heal. But this is something that I still would like to talk about. I am sure that you have heard people say that, when you change your life for the Lord, that you are going to lose some friends. I have heard many pastors say this over

In the world today there seems to be a lack of true repentance. Repentance means to turn away from sin, to change, to regret your misdeeds and wrong doings. There are many people who say they love God, that pay their tithes and offerings, who even hold positions in their church but continue to live a worldly lifestyle. I believe this is because they are not convicted for their sins. Maybe they do not realize that they are sinning or maybe they know and believe that everyth

Every year me and my friends get together for a marriage retreat. This is a time that we seek to be closer to God, closer to our spouses and closer to each other. We all look forward to this annual event. For a chance to reconnect with friends, have fun and participate in daily bonding sessions. Where we not only bond with our spouses but with each other. And we always leave this retreat with our marriages strenthened in some way. For the last two years my friends have t